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To your surprise, this talk is going well. Here are four ways to keep the conversation going.
Validate
Acknowledge the concerns you are hearing, even if you disagree on the solutions.
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“I hear you that we need to change the way we talk about law enforcement.”
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“I know you've looked into this a lot, and I'm glad to be talking with you about it.”
Ask for more
Continue validating what you’re hearing by asking for more information.
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“Your perspective is new to me. Where could I learn more about what you’re saying?”
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“What if I listen to a podcast you recommend, and you listen to one I recommend, and talk about what we learned?”
Pivot
Before offering your thoughts, check out whether the other person is willing to listen.
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“I’m with you on being concerned about this. Can I offer my perspective on how to address it?”
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“This is a really challenging topic. I’ve been reading up on it, and I’d like to share some things I’ve learned. Is that okay?”
Perspective
After you’ve listened, share your perspective.
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“This is why I see this issue this way” Avoid saying things like, “Here’s how it actually is.”
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“I’ve found these sources really helpful in better understanding this issue, though I know you might not find them useful.”