BackSpeaking to a Peacekeeper about Climate Change
Who you’re talking to dictates what you say. Review our Communication Styles if you haven’t already. And remember: These examples show communication skills, and do not indicate correct or incorrect viewpoints.
Choose the communication style of the person you’re speaking to:
If you hear them say…
“Why do you keep talking about climate change? It only leads to arguments.”
👍 Try this…
“I know it bothers you when we argue. I’m trying to do it in a more constructive way.”
- Acknowledge their feelings and offer reassurance.
👎 Avoid this…
“These things are important to discuss. Leave the house if you can’t stand it.”
- Don’t be mean to a Peacekeeper who is already anxious.
If you hear them say…
“Let’s not ruin dinner by talking about this.”
👍 Try this…
“Sure, we can table this for another time.”
- Pick up the conversation with other family members individually.
👎 Avoid this…
“We can’t hide from this division any longer.”
- This will make the Peacekeeper fear that you intend to start a big family fight.
If you hear them say…
“You’re always starting arguments about climate politics”
👍 Try this…
“That’s not my intention, so I’ll watch my tone. I just want to have a better understanding of where other people are coming from.”
- Distinguish between nasty arguments and genuine efforts to understand.
👎 Avoid this…
“Why are you so afraid of disagreement?”
- Accusations make Peacekeepers even more uncomfortable.
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